Some parents feel as if they need to give their child everything they want to show their love. While providing them with the essentials is indeed a sign of a great parent, this doesn’t mean they need to be spoiled. If you want to raise a well-mannered child with good values, you’ll need to establish some ground rules first. Here are some ways you can avoid raising spoiled kids:
Stick to Your Limits
When setting limits with your children, you’ll want to make sure there’s no room for interpretation on their part. There’s a big difference between “I suppose you can have a cookie” and “you can have only one cookie.” Closing the door on any possibility of stretching the limit is the key to success. If you crack and allow your child to get more than what you originally allowed, they’ll keep this in mind for the future to use against you!
State Your Case
When a child really wants something, usually they can continue to beg until their parents give in. Rather than giving in to a child’s begging, allow them to instead state their case as to why they deserve the thing they want. For example, if they can successfully explain that they’ve been well-behaved and such, then you can feel good about allowing it. Not only will this technique keep your child from getting spoiled, but they also learn some valuable social and communication skills in the process.
Work Before Play
Children need to learn the value of hard work at a young age in order to appreciation the things they’re given. If you require your kid to do their chores and handle responsibilities before receiving or doing what they want, there will be no need to worry about spoiling them. Studies have shown that this practice can actually help your child develop the ability to cope with frustration.
OK to Disappoint
Although it may be hard to watch your child get upset with you, you can’t be afraid to disappoint them. Children need to learn that they can’t always get everything they want in life. Plus, learning to accept disappointment will give your child important coping skills in terms of their emotions in the future.
Everything is good in moderation, right? Teaching your child the concept of moderation in all things is another good bit of knowledge for them. When it comes to the things they want, you should make compromises with them. For example, try something along the lines of: “I understand you like both of these toys, but you’re only allowed to get one today.”
Guest Blog by Jennifer Cicci of Babee Talk
As a mother, Jennifer understands the importance of offering nothing by the best for baby. Motivated by teeth marks on her children’s cribs, she decided to design a teething rail cover after trying products that didn’t measure up when it came to quality or style. What she found out made her even more concerned about children’s safety and health: The toxic chemicals used in the production of synthetic materials have been linked to birth defects, reproductive disorders, and weakened immune systems.
She asked herself, “What if I could revolutionize the way parents decorated their crib with a safe and stylish teething rail cover that could be placed on the crib from day one?” Babee Talk® launched in 2014 with organic bedding and accessories. Chew-friendly, drool-friendly, and organic inside and out, her products ensure a healthy start in life for babies.
She only offers products that she would provide for her own children. She hopes moms and dads will start to talk about the importance of choosing safe, healthy, eco-friendly products, especially for babies.
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